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Rules to Live By

2 Timothy 2:5 – An athlete is not crowned unless he competes according to the rules.

My family has adopted three simple rules to live by in our home for daily use. Emma, my five year old daughter has come up with three simple rules and we as a family have used them in practically every situation we find ourselves in. Here they are:

1. Have a Good Attitude.
2. Make Good Choices.
3. Be a Helper.

As I look over these I realize these could be used everywhere, i.e. Workplace, Church, Family, Recreation, Counseling etc. The cool thing about this list is that a five year old came up with it. Over the next three posts I will break these down more from a Biblical perspective under the “Leadership On the Go” category.

Summer Fun for Dads.

If someone calls you daddy then get creative this summer and make some memories. Here’s a few ideas:

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Mothers Day thoughts

Proverbs 1:7-9:

7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fool despise wisdom and discipline. 8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. 9 They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.

“Things moms teach us”.

 

* Mothers teach us about foresight: “Make sure you wear clean underwear in case you’re in an accident.”
* Mothers teach us about logic: “If you fall out of that tree and break your neck, don’t come crying to me.”
* Mothers teach us about maturity: “Eat your vegetables or you’ll never grow up.”
* Mothers teach us about religion: “You better pray that comes out of the carpet.”
* Mothers teach us about time travel: “If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”
* Mothers teach us about contradictions: “Shut your mouth and eat your dinner!”
* Mothers teach us about contortionism: “Will you look at the dirt on the back of your neck?”
* Mothers teach us about perseverance: “You are going to sit here until you eat every last piece of that broccoli.”
* Mothers teach us about genetics: “You’re just like your father.”
* Mothers teach us about the weather: “It looks like a tornado swept through your room.”
* Mothers teach us about the circle of life: “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out.”

We all have stories of our Mother’s and those who have been Motherly to us and things they have taught us along the way. There are also some things that we can do to ensure those we call Mom or who have been motherly to us, know how much we care.

We are to Honor, Respect & Take Care Of those who we call Mom or who are Motherly to us:

Solomon gives us an example in 1 Kings 2:19:

19 When Bathsheba went to King Solomon to speak to him for Adonijah, the king stood up to meet her, bowed down to her and sat down on his throne. He had a throne brought for the king’s mother, and she sat down at his right hand.

Bathsheba was Solomon’s mother and her past was a little shady but we see that no matter how are mothers have acted in the past they are still to be honored.

Solomon stood up to meet her.

Bowed down. The king who is used to everyone else bowing down to him bows for his mother. No matter how old we think we get we should still bow down, respect and honor our mothers.

He had a throne brought out for her. Our mothers deserve the very best in all that we do.

Our Mothers teach us to be who we are. We are to honor and respect the mothers in our lives. And finally we see our Lord interact with His mother.

John 19:25-27:

25 Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. 26 When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Dear woman, here is your son,” 27 and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.  Continue reading →

Family to Family Critique

Bibliographical Entry
Pipes, Jerry & Lee, Victor. Family to Family. North American Mission Board of the Southern Baptist Convention, 1999.

Author Information
Dr. Jerry Pipes the Team Leader of Spiritual Awakening and Mass Evangelism at the North American Mission Board and is President of Jerry Pipes Productions. Jerry served as part of the former Bush Administration’s President’s War on Drugs in the early 1990’s and has been speaking to groups of students and parents around the world for more than 30 years. Dr. Pipes authored several books relating to the issues of personal growth and the family. He has authored Becoming Complete, Family to Family, and Building a Successful Family. Dr. Pipes completed his B.S. at Texas A & M University, his M.A. at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and his D. Min. at Luther Rice Seminary. Continue reading →

Youth Ministry & Family Discipleship

Dear Youth Pastor,

I have been impressed with your ability to keep my child busy while I do “adult” church. Thank you for teaching my child how play messy games and to pull random things out of his pockets for a prize. I appreciate all you do.

Yours Truly,
Mrs. Church Parent

Obviously this is a “make-believe” letter. However, the church has somehow found itself in a strange place. This generation of youth parents has been programmed to rely on programs. The issue of who disciples my child is at the forefront of youth ministry today.

So this post is for youth pastors, who are seeking to change the culture of their perspective faith community.

Let’s look at some ways to get the “Family Discipleship” ball rolling in your church community.

Prayer
Pray for your church leadership
This includes but not limited to: Pastor, Worship Leader and Children’s Director
Pray that the leadership of the church catch the vision of family ministry
Pray for the families represented in your faith community
Pray for parents to receive the direction you are trying to lead them in
Pray for the students to be bold when asking parents to lead
Pray for wisdom
Wisdom is much more than having knowledge about family ministry.
Wisdom is putting that knowledge into practice through picking the right leaders, presenting the right material and equipping families.

Get the Pastor on Board
The first person to have on your support team is the Pastor.
Youth Pastor it is time to leave your preconceived notions at the door, your pastor must be the first person on your team. Without the pastors support there is no balance for your ministry.

Model it
If your family is not involved in a family discipleship plan(FDP), forget about getting others on board.
FDP involves the following:
Prioritize it
Schedule it
Apply it
Encouragement
Involve other families
Seize it

Plan for it
When recruiting your team of youth volunteers, recruit the parents!
Parents need to see the value of being present
Plan your yearly activities with the family in mind
Keep your ministry Family friendly

Small Group
Start a small group of parents/families
Teach the principles of family discipleship from Scripture
Once you begin to change the mindset of parent, and they have ownership in family discipleship, the will begin to tell other parents about the vision of family ministry.

This post has been a collaboration of Ryan Marcum and Brian Smith. We are Youth Pastors exploring Family Discipleship in the local church. This is an on-going list and would love to hear from you! Leave a comment.